Kink-aware coaching with Aidan Sunassee

Who this is for

Hello human! And thank you for visiting my page. I offer coaching to people who are curious about kink and don’t know where to start, people stepping into a new role, and people in D/s, M/s, and other power exchange dynamics who want to refine what they have.

I work with individuals, couples and polycules, and I’m comfortable with beginners and long-time practitioners alike. I also have experience with folks in TPE dynamics, 24/7 dynamics, and folks who are exploring various forms of long-term blanket consent agreements, so don’t be shy – there’s no judgement here.

If you simply need some support but aren’t quite sure about the exact terms or specific questions you want to ask, know that simply showing up is enough. And if you aren’t quite sure if this is for you, that’s what the 15-minute consultation is for. Come say hello on a free call so we can get to know each other, and find out whether I am a good fit for you.

What we can work on

• Exploring kink and identity. Figuring out what draws you to kink, discovering roles, or reconnecting with desire and self-expression.
• Communication and boundaries. Naming needs, negotiating consent, and repairing conversations that haven’t gone well.
• Power exchange and dynamics. Whether D/s, M/s, or something else, whether new or 10+ years in, we all sometimes need help establishing, refining or deepening a dynamic, including roles, rituals, agreements and structure.
• Kink, trauma and emotional processing. Making sense of an intense experience, at a slow and nonjudgmental pace. See trauma-informed kink coaching.

Booking and cost

Start with a free 15-minute introduction call to see whether it’s a good fit.

Full sessions are €100 per hour, with student discounts and sliding scale options. They run over Zoom, usually with video, although I am open to talking about alternatives you may be more comfortable with. You stay in control of how much we explore and can pause, redirect or take a break at any point.

Most sessions are booked one at a time, but if you’d like regular check-ins, we can set up a multi-session package.

My approach

I am a kinkster myself, as well as a sexuality researcher specializing in kink and trauma. My work is therefore heavily rooted in trauma awareness, kink affirmation and respect for lived experience. I meet people where they are, and recognize that there are endless ways of experiencing kink practice, be it play, lifestyle, or identity-based.

Frequently asked questions

Do I need to be experienced in kink to work with you?

Not at all. Many people I work with are just beginning to explore kink or power dynamics. You don’t need to know all the terms or have everything figured out. Curiosity and an open mind are enough.

Do you work with couples or polycules?

Yes. I offer sessions for individuals, couples, and multi-partner dynamics depending on your needs.

Are sessions online?

Yes. Consultations take place over Zoom, so we can work together wherever you are. My workshops can be hosted online or in person.

What does a session cost?

A 15-minute introduction call is free. Full-length sessions are €100 per hour (contact me for other currency rates). Student discounts and sliding scale options are available.

Are you a therapist?

No. I'm an ABS-certified sexologist and sexuality educator, not a licensed therapist. Coaching sessions are not a substitute for clinical mental health treatment. I can share grounding tools and point you to trauma-informed resources or directories if you want additional support.