Exploring the Intersections of
Trauma, Healing, and Sexuality

Educational Workshops (Group Classes)

Book a class on any of the following topics. Available as single sessions or series upon request. Rates vary depending on format and location. Contact me for a quote or schedule a meeting to discuss what works best for your group.

• Kink 101: The Basics

  An introduction to kink practices, terminology, and community norms. Great for beginner groups.

  This workshop offers an accessible, no-shame introduction to kink. We’ll walk through foundational terms, safety practices like safe words and aftercare, and how people find roles, preferences, and community in kink spaces. Whether you’re brand new or looking to clarify what you’ve read online, this session creates space for questions, clarity, and respectful curiosity.

• Trauma and Kink

  A conversation-based workshop about kink engagement after traumatic experiences.

  This session explores how trauma and kink can show up in the same room—without assuming one “causes” the other. We talk about the many ways people relate their histories to their play, and how kink can become a space where people feel a sense of agency, comfort, or emotional depth. It’s not about “healing through kink” as a rule—it’s about understanding the wide range of ways people engage in kink after trauma.

• Trauma Play

  A deep dive into consensual trauma reenactment scenes: what they look like, why people engage in them, and how to remain safe throughout.

  Trauma play involves consensual reenactment of scenes or themes tied to past harm. This advanced workshop covers what that can look like, how people prepare for it, and what makes a scene supportive rather than destabilizing. We’ll talk about both the risks and the potential emotional payoff, how folks navigate power and meaning, and what kind of conversations are necessary before and after. Recommended: Attend “Kink 101” and “Trauma and Kink” beforehand, especially if new to these topics.

• Erotic Hypnosis

  Explore hypnosis in a kink context: building trust, shaping scenes, and using altered states to create powerful, consent-driven erotic experiences.

  In this workshop, we explore trance play through a kink lens. Erotic hypnosis involves entering altered states of awareness as part of scene-building, intimacy, or sexual exploration. We’ll cover how to create hypnotic experiences rooted in trust, clear consent, and connection. We’ll also talk about ethical use, risk awareness, and communication before, during, and after a scene. Recommended: Attend “Kink 101” beforehand to ensure familiarity with kink frameworks and foundational safety concepts.

• Boundaries and Consent Negotiation

  A skills-based session focused on practical communication: setting limits, expressing desires clearly, and holding space for evolving needs.

  This practical workshop focuses on developing robust skills for communicating boundaries, articulating desires, and negotiating consent in intimate contexts. Through interactive exercises, participants enhance their consent vocabulary, practice boundary conversations, and learn techniques for ongoing consent checking.

• Polyamory / Ethical Non-Monogamy and Kink

  A look at how people manage multiple relationships—balancing emotions, communication, and power dynamics without losing a sense of self or connection.

  This session is for people exploring or living non-monogamously who want to deepen their communication and self-reflection while exploring kink. We’ll talk about real-world challenges—like jealousy, time management, dynamics and emotional honesty—and how people build structures that work for them.

1:1 Consultations

Book a one-on-one consultation to talk through anything sexuality, kink or dynamic related. An initial 15-minute consultation is free. Full sessions are EUR100 per hour. Contact me below to discuss potential discounts and sliding scale options—accessibility matters, and I’m happy to work with you.

• Not sure where to start? 15-Minute Introduction

  A 15-minute call to explore what kind of support you’re looking for.

  If you're feeling curious but unsure which session fits, this is a short, pressure-free space to talk it through. Whether you're new to kink, processing something complex, or just want to get a sense of what working together might be like, this quick consultation is meant to clarify next steps and see if it's a good fit—no prep or commitment needed.

• Exploring Kink and Identity

  For those figuring out what draws them to kink, discovering new roles, or reconnecting with desire and self-expression.

  This session is for anyone in that questioning, curious, or shifting place. Whether you’re new to kink, stepping into a new role, or trying to understand what feels right for you now, this is a space to unpack things at your own pace. We can explore identity, dynamics, attraction, and expression—especially where it intersects with power, care, and control. You don’t need to have answers to begin.

• Communication and Boundaries

  Support with naming needs, navigating consent, or negotiating dynamics—whether in play, relationships, or community.

  If expressing your limits, desires, or boundaries feels difficult—or if past conversations haven’t gone well—this session can help you get clearer and more confident in how you communicate. We’ll talk through language, timing, and real-life challenges in negotiation, repair, and ongoing consent. You don’t need to have the “right words”—this is where we find them together.

• Power Exchange and D/s Dynamics

  Guidance around establishing, refining, or sustaining power exchange relationships, including roles, rituals, and structure.

  For people exploring dominance, submission, or other intentional dynamics, this session can focus on how to build something that feels grounded and sustainable. Whether you're setting up a new relationship, revisiting agreements, or feeling stuck in an existing one, we’ll talk through structure, communication rhythms, rituals, and how to keep things feeling alive and authentic—not just performative.

• Kink, Trauma, and Emotional Processing

  A space to reflect on the emotional layers of kink—especially for those with trauma histories or recent challenging experiences..

  Kink can bring up a lot—especially for people with trauma histories or complex emotional landscapes. This session is about making room for that. Whether you’re working through shame, confusion, intense reactions, or just trying to make sense of a powerful experience, this space is slow, attuned, and nonjudgmental. There’s no pressure to be “healed” or to turn every scene into a breakthrough. This is a space to explore what’s coming up and what you need.

Writing and Content Services

Available for commissioned or collaborative writing projects related to sexuality, kink, trauma, and related topics. Pricing varies depending on the scope and nature of the project. Contact me for a quote or schedule a meeting to discuss how I can support you.

• Educational articles and blog posts

  Accessible, informative content for various audiences on sexuality and relationship topics.

  Ideal for organizations, blogs, or publications seeking content that blends clarity, depth, and nuance. I write about sexuality, kink, trauma, and mental health in ways that are approachable without oversimplifying. These articles can be tailored for therapists, educators, kink-aware professionals, or general audiences looking to understand complex topics in grounded, thoughtful ways.

• Community resource creation

  Developing guides, handbooks, and educational materials for community organizations.

  For community collectives, nonprofits, and grassroots orgs in need of trauma-aware, kink-informed resources—this service includes co-developing guides, toolkits, and educational frameworks that are practical, affirming, and accessible. Topics may include consent, power dynamics, harm reduction, trauma support, and identity-based care. The aim is to build usable, respectful resources tailored to your community’s needs.

• Copywriting for sexuality professionals or educators

  Creating compelling, accurate content for websites, programs, and marketing materials.

  Whether you're a sex educator, therapist, or coach, clear and affirming language makes all the difference. This service helps translate your offerings into language that’s aligned with your values and resonates with your audience. I specialize in copy that’s kink-aware, inclusive, and emotionally intelligent—without sounding clinical or overly sanitized.

• Content editing and consulting for inclusive, trauma-informed language

  Reviewing and refining existing content to ensure it's accessible, inclusive, and sensitive.

  Already have content, but want a second set of eyes on it? I offer editing and consulting focused on trauma-informed, kink-aware, and identity-affirming language. This includes anything from tightening the tone of blog posts, to reviewing policies, curriculum, or website copy for accessibility, emotional attunement, and inclusivity. Ideal for professionals who want their messaging to reflect their ethics.

• Custom Projects

  Support for projects that don’t fit neatly into a category—or that need to be built from the ground up.

  Have a project idea that doesn't quite match the descriptions above? Whether it’s a hybrid format, a long-term collaboration, or something still taking shape, this offering creates space to co-develop something that meets your specific goals. Past collaborations have included zine contributions, kink education curriculum, trauma-informed training materials, and creative nonfiction rooted in lived experience. Reach out to explore what’s possible.

Do I need to be experienced in kink to work with you?

Not at all. Many people I work with are just beginning to explore kink or power dynamics. You don’t need to know all the terms or have everything figured out—curiosity and an open mind are enough.

Do you work with couples or polycules?

Yes, I offer sessions for individuals, couples, and multi-partner dynamics depending on your needs.

Do you offer virtual consultations or workshops?

Yes, all services can be offered virtually. Consultations take place via Zoom or another secure platform. Workshops can be hosted online or in person, depending on your group’s needs and location. Rates vary based on format and travel requirements.

What does a consultation cost?

A 15-minute intro call is free. Full-length sessions are €100 per hour (contact me for other currency rates). Student discounts and sliding scale options are available—contact me and I'm happy to discuss what works for your budget.

How do I pay, and what methods do you accept?

Payment is typically made in advance to confirm your booking. I accept PayPal, bank transfer, and other common digital payment platforms. If you need alternative arrangements, feel free to reach out.

What if I can’t find a time slot that works for me?

No problem—just reach out using the contact form below, and we'll find something that works.

Do you offer longer-term support or packages?

Yes. While most sessions are booked individually, I’m happy to set up ongoing support if that feels more useful. If you're looking for regular check-ins or project-based work, we can arrange a multi-session package or bulk rate that fits your goals.

What if I get emotional or feel overwhelmed in a session?

You’re always in control of how much we explore, and you’re welcome to pause, redirect, or take breaks whenever you need. While I’m not a licensed therapist and these sessions are not a substitute for mental health treatment, I can share grounding tools and recommend trauma-informed resources or directories to help you find additional support if needed. If you're in crisis or need immediate help, please click here to find international support resources.

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This paper examines how BDSM trauma play may support healing through agency and pleasure, with findings on the link between pleasure intensity and psychological resilience.

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Exploring BDSM as a Path to Healing for Survivors of Childhood Abuse

A TASHRA article on healing and Kink based on Lotz-Nigh's research.

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